Tools
Tools for consent and communication
Practical, free tools that help you understand what you want, talk about it openly and agree on what feels good for everyone involved.
Discover yourself
Get clear on what you like, what you need and what you already know.
Preference test
Answer questions at your own pace and see which roles and interests fit you. A calm starting point before you talk with a partner.
User manual
Six prompts about comfort, conflict, affection and your social battery. Share it so partners know how you work best.
Certification quizzes
Check what you know about safety and consent with short quizzes. Every answer comes with an explanation.
Talk together
Conversations that are easy to start and kind to both of you.
Conversation starters
Random questions for first dates, everyday check-ins and deep talks. Save your favorites with a free account.
Couples games
Seven games, from 100 questions to truth or dare, that make talking about desire and boundaries easier and more playful.
Situation Room
Real situations from relationships and intimacy, with words you can use, next steps and safety notes.
Plan together
Put what you agreed into words and plan time that feels good for both.
Agreements
Start from a template or build your own agreement step by step: limits, safe words, check-ins and aftercare in writing.
Date nights
Date ideas, recipes for two and a planner to invite your partner and keep the plan for the evening in one place.
Scene Playbooks
Complete plans for a scene: what you need, what to agree on, safety checks and aftercare, with the step-by-step flow for adults.
Date-night cookbook
Recipes for two: breakfast in bed, sharing plates, desserts and alcohol-free drinks for an evening at home.
Stay safe in the moment
Small tools for during and after a scene: reminders to check in, your aftercare plan and your limits at a glance.
Check-in timer
A gentle chime at the interval you choose, with green, yellow and red answers, so checking in becomes a habit.
Aftercare card
Write down what helps you after a scene and how drop shows up for you, then print it as a page or a wallet card.
Limits sheet
Your hard limits, maybes, curiosities and favorites on one clean page, built from your library or picked by hand.
Not sure where to start?
Know yourself
Take the preference test or fill in your user manual. Knowing your own yes, maybe and no makes every conversation easier.
Start talking
Use a conversation starter or a game to open the topic in a light way, without pressure.
Write it down
Turn what you agreed into an agreement and review it together from time to time.
Questions about the tools
Are the tools free?
Yes. Every tool on Consation is free, with no subscription and no ads.
Do I need an account?
No. Games, the Situation Room, conversation starters, templates and the preference test work without an account. A free account lets you save results, connect with a partner and sign agreements together.
Who are the tools for?
For adults in any kind of relationship: new or long-term, monogamous or open, vanilla or kinky. You can use most tools alone or together.
Can the tools replace counseling?
No. They are educational and help you start conversations. If you feel unsafe or under pressure, the helplines page lists places that can help.