Brat/Tamer Contract

Defining acceptable bratting and limits:

Acceptable Bratty Behaviors:

• ☐Eye rolling
• ☐Sassy comments and back talk
• ☐"Make me"
• ☐Deliberately doing opposite of instructions
• ☐Running away when called
• ☐Hiding when it's scene time
• ☐Sticking tongue out
• ☐Playful insults and name-calling
• ☐Pouting and whining
• ☐Pretending not to hear Tamer
• ☐Doing task poorly on purpose (safely)
• ☐Teasing and taunting
• ☐"You're not the boss of me"
• ☐Laughing at Tamer's attempts to control
• ☐Being a smartass
• ☐Other:

Off-Limits Behaviors (Not Acceptable Bratting):

• ✗Genuine disrespect or cruelty
• ✗Bratting about serious topics:
• ✗Ignoring safe words or safety rules
• ✗Bratting when Tamer is genuinely stressed/upset
• ✗Public bratting that embarrasses (unless agreed)
• ✗Bratting that damages property
• ✗Involving vanilla people in dynamic
• ✗Other hard limits:

Bratting Intensity Levels:

Level 1: Mild Bratting

• Small eye rolls
• Slight delays in obeying
• Minor sass
• Easily tamed

Level 2: Moderate Bratting

• Obvious defiance
• Running away
• "Make me" challenges
• Requires effort to tame

Level 3: Full Brat Mode

• Complete resistance
• Maximum sass and attitude
• Hiding, escaping attempts
• Tamer must work hard to catch/tame
• Reserved for when brat needs serious attention

Current Comfortable Range:
Everyday bratting level: 1 to 2
Scene bratting level: 2 to 3
Maximum allowed:

Bratting Zones:

At Home:

• ☐Full bratting allowed
• ☐Moderate bratting
• ☐Minimal bratting
• ☐Other:

In Public:

• ☐No bratting (vanilla in public)
• ☐Subtle bratting only (eye rolls, small sass)
• ☐Moderate bratting in kinky spaces
• ☐Other:

Around Vanilla Friends/Family:

• ☐Absolutely no bratting
• ☐Only subtle, unnoticeable to others
• ☐Other:

When Bratting Is Not Okay:

• During serious discussions
• When Tamer is genuinely upset
• During actual discipline (not funishment)
• When:
• When:

The "I'm Actually Upset" Signal:
Sometimes brat is genuinely upset, not bratty.
Signal to Tamer that this is real:
(Different from safe word, indicates need for genuine care)

Distinguishing between playful and serious consequences:

Funishment (Playful):
This is what brat gets for typical bratty behavior. It's fun, sometimes sexually charged, and brat secretly (or not so secretly) enjoys it.

Funishment Options:

• ☐Spankings (over the knee, playful)
  • Intensity: Light / Moderate / Hard
  • Implements: Hand, paddle, other:
  • Duration: Until brat is giggly/turned on

• ☐Tickle Torture
  • Duration: minutes
  • Spots: [Sides, feet, everywhere]
  • Brat's secret favorite: Yes / No

• ☐Restraint
  • Tied up while Tamer does something else
  • Duration: minutes
  • Brat must stay still or consequences

• ☐Orgasm Denial/Control
  • Edging without permission to come
  • Forced orgasms
  • No touching self

• ☐Corner Time (Playful)
  • Duration: 5 to 15 minutes
  • Nose to corner
  • Thinking about behavior (but actually plotting more bratting)

• ☐Forced Cuddles
  • Brat must be still and cuddly
  • No squirming allowed
  • Tamer holds brat firmly

• ☐Other funishments:

After Funishment:

• Tamer praises brat
• Cuddles and affection
• "You took that so well"
• Possibly sexy time if both want
• Brat feels satisfied and connected

Punishment (Serious):
This is for genuine rule violations, not playful bratting. Brat does not enjoy this.

What constitutes genuine rule violation:

• Breaking actual hard limits
• Ignoring safety rules
• Genuine disrespect or cruelty
• Lying about important matters
• Other:

Actual Punishment Options:

• ☐Loss of privileges
  • No TV/phone/games for time
  • No sexy time for days
  • No bratting allowed for time

• ☐Serious Corner Time
  • Duration: 20 to 30 minutes
  • Silent and still
  • Actually thinking about action

• ☐Serious Spanking
  • Not fun, genuinely corrective
  • Discussed afterward
  • Forgiveness and moving forward

• ☐Written Lines or Essays
  • Writing out lesson learned
  • Reflection on behavior

• ☐Loss of Tamer's attention
  • Being ignored for a period
  • (Worst punishment for attention-seeking brat)

• ☐Other:

After Actual Punishment:

• Serious discussion about behavior
• Brat apologizes genuinely
• Tamer forgives and reassures
• Punishment is over, fresh start
• Aftercare and comfort
• Rebuilding connection

How Tamer handles the brat and why brat acts this way:

Why the Brat Brats:
Understanding the behavior helps Tamer respond effectively:

• ☐Attention Seeking
  • Brat feels ignored or wants Tamer's focus
  • Solution: Give quality attention

• ☐Testing Boundaries
  • Brat needs reassurance that rules still stand
  • Solution: Consistent enforcement

• ☐Stress Relief
  • Bratting is how brat processes stress
  • Solution: Allow bratting, then provide care

• ☐Playfulness
  • Brat just wants to play and have fun
  • Solution: Engage in the play

• ☐Feeling Submissive
  • Paradoxically, bratting when feeling most submissive
  • Wants to be "made" to submit
  • Solution: Tame them and they'll melt

• ☐Seeking Funishment
  • Brat wants that specific attention/sensation
  • Solution: Give them what they're asking for

Effective Taming Techniques:

The Look

• That specific Tamer glare
• Brat knows they're in trouble
• Often enough to make brat giggle and behave

The Voice

• Dropping into Dom voice
• "Little brat, come here now"
• Firm but not angry

Physical Containment

• Grabbing brat before they run
• Pulling over knee for immediate spanking
• Restraining and making brat be still
• Pinning against wall for serious talk

The Challenge

• "Oh really? Let's see about that"
• Rising to brat's provocation
• Chasing and catching
• Proving who's actually in charge

Ignoring (Briefly)

• Sometimes ignoring bratting is most effective
• Brat escalates, then Tamer pounces
• "I was waiting for you to really commit"

The Bait and Switch

• Brat thinks they're winning
• Tamer lets them think so
• Then Tamer shows who's really in control

Positive Reinforcement

• Catching brat being good
• Praising even small compliance
• "There's my good brat"

What Doesn't Work:

• ✗Genuine anger (brat shuts down)
• ✗Actually ignoring for too long (brat feels abandoned)
• ✗Being too easy (brat feels unsatisfied)
• ✗Inconsistency (brat gets confused)
• ✗Not rising to challenge (brat feels rejected)

After Taming:
Once brat has been "tamed" and submits:

• They drop into genuine submission
• Tamer provides affection and reassurance
• "There's my good brat"
• Cuddles, praise, care
• Connection has been reestablished
• Brat feels satisfied and loved
• Both partners had fun

The Bratting/Taming Cycle:

1. Brat acts up
2. Tamer responds to challenge
3. Play/resistance escalates
4. Tamer "wins" and tames brat
5. Brat submits sweetly
6. Affection and connection
7. Repeat when brat needs it again

This is a dance both partners enjoy.