Relationship Agreement
Dominant/Submissive Contract
Date:
Dominant / submissive
This Dominant/Submissive Contract establishes a consensual power exchange relationship between a Dominant (the one who leads) and a submissive (the one who follows). This agreement recognizes that power exchange is a gift freely given and can be withdrawn at any time. This agreement is a communication tool and not a legally binding contract.
Purpose
The purpose of this contract is to define the parameters of a Dominant/submissive relationship, including protocols, expectations, limits, and the scope of power exchange. Both parties enter this agreement seeking mutual fulfillment through the structured exchange of power and control.
Important legal notice
This document is a personal agreement between consenting adults. It is not a legally binding contract.
All activities must comply with local laws. Both parties must be at least 18 years old.
Parties involved
| Partner 1 Name: Date of birth: Contact: | Partner 2 Name: Date of birth: Contact: |
Core principles Mandatory
This agreement is based on the following principles:
- SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual)
- RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink)
- Enthusiastic, informed, ongoing consent
- The right to withdraw consent at any time
Safe words and signals Mandatory
| Red (stop immediately): | |
|---|---|
| Yellow (slow down or check in): | |
| Green (continue): |
Critical: Safe words must be respected immediately, without question or hesitation.
Hard limits
Partner 1's hard limits
Partner 2's hard limits
Activities
Activities that often come up in this dynamic. Tick what applies, cross out what does not and add notes or limits.
- Giving/Following Orders: Dominant gives commands, submissive followsNotes and limits:
- Protocol & Rituals: Formal behaviors and routinesNotes and limits:
- Service: Submissive performs tasks for DominantNotes and limits:
- Discipline: Consequences for rule violationsNotes and limits:
- Kneeling/Positions: Physical displays of submissionNotes and limits:
- Orgasm Control: Dominant controls submissive's orgasmsNotes and limits:
- Bondage: Physical restraint to enhance power exchangeNotes and limits:
- Impact Play: Spanking or other impact as discipline or pleasureNotes and limits:
- Sensory Play: Controlling submissive's sensesNotes and limits:
- Public Protocols: Subtle displays of D/s in publicNotes and limits:
- Other:
Toys and equipment
Tick what you want to use and note specific items or limits.
- Collar: Symbol of ownership and commitmentNotes and limits:
- Cuffs: For restraint during scenesNotes and limits:
- Blindfold: Sensory deprivation and vulnerabilityNotes and limits:
- Rope: Restraint and aesthetic bondageNotes and limits:
- Paddle: For discipline or funishmentNotes and limits:
- Flogger: Impact play implementNotes and limits:
- Vibrator: For controlled pleasureNotes and limits:
- Gag: To limit speech when negotiatedNotes and limits:
- Other:
Rules and protocols
Common rules for this dynamic. Keep, change or remove them as you agree.
- Submissive will address Dominant by agreed title (Sir/Ma'am/etc.)
- Permission required before orgasms
- Submissive will maintain agreed grooming standards
- Daily check-in required (text/call)
- Submissive will kneel when Dominant enters the room (during scenes)
- Honesty is mandatory: hiding information is a serious breach
- Submissive may request reconsideration of orders respectfully
- Dominant will provide clear expectations and feedback
- Regular relationship reviews (weekly/monthly)
- All rules can be modified by mutual agreement
- Additional rule:
Scope of Power Exchange
This section defines where the power exchange applies:
Bedroom Only: Power exchange occurs during designated intimate scenes
Extended Scenes: Power exchange during planned sessions/weekends
24/7 Dynamic: Power exchange is ongoing with defined parameters
Current Agreement: [To be filled in by partners]
Areas under Dominant's control (check all that apply):
- Sexual activities
- Orgasm permission
- Clothing choices (scene/daily)
- Daily tasks and chores
- Bedtime and wake time
- Diet and nutrition
- Exercise routine
- Social plans
- Financial decisions
- Other:
Areas remaining under submissive's autonomous control:
- Career decisions
- Medical decisions
- Family relationships
- Friendships
- Personal boundaries with others
- Financial independence
- Other:
Protocol Guidelines
Formal protocols the submissive will follow:
Forms of Address:
- Private: [Title]
- Public: [Name or subtle title]
- Text/Email: [Format]
Position Protocol:
- Greeting position: [Describe]
- Waiting position: [Describe]
- Inspection position: [Describe]
- Discipline position: [Describe]
Speech Protocol:
- Permission to speak freely: [When]
- Formal speech required: [When]
- Asking for needs: [Process]
Service Expectations:
- Daily tasks: [List]
- Special occasion duties: [List]
- Ritual behaviors: [List]
Protocols may be relaxed during: [Specify situations, e.g. illness, stress, vanilla time]
Aftercare requirements Mandatory
Partner 1's aftercare needs
Partner 2's aftercare needs
Time and commitment
Tick the dynamic you agree on.
- 24/7 dynamic: The power exchange is part of everyday life, not only scenes, within the limits and protocols you agree on.
- Bedroom only: The dynamic applies only in intimate or sexual settings. Outside of that, you relate as equals.
- Scheduled scenes: You plan scenes in advance, with a set time, place and negotiation beforehand.
- Casual / as desired: Scenes happen when you both feel like it, with no fixed schedule. Each scene is still negotiated.
- Long distance: You live apart and maintain the dynamic through messages, calls, video and planned visits.
Mandatory safety protocols Non-negotiable
- Regular communication: partners check in regularly about comfort, boundaries and desires.
- Respect for safe words: safe words are honored immediately, without question.
- Aftercare: appropriate aftercare is provided after every scene.
- Respect for boundaries: all stated limits and boundaries are respected.
- Ongoing consent: consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time.
- No activities under the influence: no scenes while under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
- Emergency procedures: both partners know the emergency contacts and procedures.
Signatures
By signing below, both parties confirm that they have read, understood and agree to everything in this agreement.
Partner 1:
Partner 2:
Important reminders
- This agreement can be changed at any time by mutual agreement.
- Review it regularly, for example every 3 to 6 months.
- Consent can be withdrawn at any time.
- Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
- Always put safety, consent and mutual respect first.