Switch Partnership Contract

How roles are determined and switched:

Switching Frequency:

• ☐Every scene we switch roles
• ☐Alternate weekly
• ☐Alternate monthly
• ☐By mutual agreement each time
• ☐Whoever initiates the scene gets to top
• ☐Schedule in advance (calendar/planning)
• ☐Other:

Current Role Split Preference:
Partner A prefers: % Dominant / % Submissive
Partner B prefers: % Dominant / % Submissive

Target ratio:

How Switches Are Communicated:

• Verbal discussion before scene
• Text/message ahead of time
• Use of specific signal or phrase:
• Scheduled on shared calendar
• Other:

Signaling Current Role:
When Partner A is dominant: [Wears collar, uses title, other signal]
When Partner B is dominant: [Wears collar, uses title, other signal]

Titles & Forms of Address:
When Partner A is Dominant, they are called:
When Partner B is Dominant, they are called:
When Partner A is submissive, they are called:
When Partner B is submissive, they are called:

Role Preferences by Activity:
Some activities may be preferred in specific roles:

Partner A prefers to top for:
Partner A prefers to bottom for:
Partner B prefers to top for:
Partner B prefers to bottom for:

Hard Limits by Role:
Partner A will not do [activity] when topping:
Partner A will not do [activity] when bottoming:
Partner B will not do [activity] when topping:
Partner B will not do [activity] when bottoming:

What each role entails in this partnership:

When in Dominant Role, this partner will:

• Lead the scene and make decisions
• Check in regularly with bottom partner
• Provide aftercare to submissive partner
• Respect all limits and safe words immediately
• Plan scene activities (or collaborate if preferred)
• Take responsibility for safety
• Provide clear commands and expectations
• Offer praise and feedback
• Other expectations:

When in Submissive Role, this partner will:

• Follow instructions from dominant partner
• Communicate needs and comfort levels honestly
• Use safe words if needed
• Show respect and deference to dominant
• Follow agreed protocols for that scene
• Accept aftercare gracefully
• Provide feedback after scene
• Express gratitude for the experience
• Other expectations:

Activities Each Partner Likes to Do (as Dominant):
Partner A enjoys doing:
Partner B enjoys doing:

Activities Each Partner Likes to Receive (as Submissive):
Partner A enjoys receiving:
Partner B enjoys receiving:

Intensity Levels:
Partner A as Dominant tends to be: □ Gentle □ Moderate □ Intense
Partner B as Dominant tends to be: □ Gentle □ Moderate □ Intense
Partner A as Submissive enjoys: □ Gentle □ Moderate □ Intense
Partner B as Submissive enjoys: □ Gentle □ Moderate □ Intense

Scene Planning:

• ☐Dominant plans the scene solo
• ☐Partners collaborate on scene plan
• ☐Submissive expresses desires, Dominant decides
• ☐Alternate who plans based on who's topping
• ☐Other:

Ensuring both partners feel fulfilled:

Monthly Check-In Questions:

1. Are you getting enough time in your preferred role?
2. Is the current ratio working for you?
3. Are there activities you want to try in either role?
4. Do you feel heard and respected in both roles?
5. Any adjustments needed to the switching schedule?
6. Are you satisfied with intensity levels?
7. Any new limits or boundaries?

Warning Signs of Imbalance:

• One partner feels they're always accommodating
• Resentment building about role frequency
• One role feels neglected or underdeveloped
• Pressure to take a role you're not feeling
• Loss of enthusiasm for scenes
• Feeling taken for granted in either role

If Imbalance Occurs:

1. Immediate check-in conversation
2. Review switching schedule and adjust
3. Ensure both partners' needs are being heard
4. Consider temporary focus on underserved role
5. Revisit what each partner needs from dynamic
6. Outside help if needed (therapist, educator)

Respecting Role Preferences:

• Neither partner should feel pressured to switch if not feeling it
• It's okay to have a preference, even if it's 80/20 or 70/30
• Both roles are equally valuable
• Communication over forcing balance
• Quality over quantity in role fulfillment

Special Considerations:

• Sometimes life stress affects role preference temporarily
• Health issues may limit certain roles
• It's okay to take breaks from switching
• Vanilla time is important too
• The goal is mutual satisfaction, not perfect equality

Celebrating Versatility:

• Both partners get to experience both sides
• Deeper understanding of partner's experience
• More empathy and communication
• Ability to fulfill each other's needs
• Broader skill set and experiences
• No role is "better": both are gifts to each other