Relationship Agreement
Sadist/Masochist Contract
Date:
Sadist / masochist
This Sadist/Masochist Contract establishes a consensual relationship between a Sadist (the giver of sensation) and a Masochist (the receiver of sensation). This agreement acknowledges that both parties find mutual satisfaction in the consensual exchange of intense physical sensations, including but not limited to pain, within carefully negotiated boundaries. This agreement is a communication tool and not a legally binding contract.
Purpose
The purpose of this contract is to create a framework for safe, consensual, and mutually satisfying sadomasochistic play. This contract emphasizes that all activities are undertaken with enthusiastic consent, clear communication, and respect for established limits. Both parties acknowledge that pleasure, connection, and trust are the foundations of this dynamic.
Important legal notice
This document is a personal agreement between consenting adults. It is not a legally binding contract.
All activities must comply with local laws. Both parties must be at least 18 years old.
Parties involved
| Partner 1 Name: Date of birth: Contact: | Partner 2 Name: Date of birth: Contact: |
Core principles Mandatory
This agreement is based on the following principles:
- SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual)
- RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink)
- Enthusiastic, informed, ongoing consent
- The right to withdraw consent at any time
Safe words and signals Mandatory
| Red (stop immediately): | |
|---|---|
| Yellow (slow down or check in): | |
| Green (continue): |
Critical: Safe words must be respected immediately, without question or hesitation.
Hard limits
Partner 1's hard limits
Partner 2's hard limits
Activities
Activities that often come up in this dynamic. Tick what applies, cross out what does not and add notes or limits.
- Impact Play: Spanking, flogging, paddling, or other forms of consensual strikingNotes and limits:
- Inflicting Pain: Consensual pain delivery through various methodsNotes and limits:
- Receiving Pain: Consensual pain reception through various methodsNotes and limits:
- Scratching/Biting: Marking through consensual scratching or bitingNotes and limits:
- Nipple Play (Intense): Intense nipple stimulation including clamps and pressureNotes and limits:
- Wax Play: Dripping hot wax on skin for pain/sensationNotes and limits:
- Sensation Play: Various implements for creating intense sensationsNotes and limits:
- Caning: Use of canes for intense, precise impactNotes and limits:
- Needle Play: Advanced sensation using sterile needlesNotes and limits:
- Verbal Sadism: Psychological elements including degradation or humiliationNotes and limits:
- Other:
Toys and equipment
Tick what you want to use and note specific items or limits.
- Flogger: Multi-tailed whip for thuddy or stingy sensationsNotes and limits:
- Paddle: Impact implement creating thuddy sensationsNotes and limits:
- Crop: Riding crop for sharp, stinging sensationsNotes and limits:
- Cane: Advanced impact tool for intense sensationNotes and limits:
- Nipple Clamps: For prolonged nipple sensation and pressureNotes and limits:
- Wartenberg Wheel: Pinwheel for prickling sensationsNotes and limits:
- Massage Candles: Safe temperature play candlesNotes and limits:
- Clothespins: For pinching and sensation playNotes and limits:
- Ice Cubes: For temperature contrast playNotes and limits:
- Rope: For restraint to enhance vulnerabilityNotes and limits:
- Other:
Rules and protocols
Common rules for this dynamic. Keep, change or remove them as you agree.
- Establish and respect a pain scale (1 to 10) for intensity communication
- Sadist will check in regularly during scenes using the pain scale
- Masochist will communicate honestly about pain levels and sensations
- First aid supplies will be accessible during all scenes
- No breaking of skin without prior negotiation and sterile equipment
- Warm-up period required before intense impact play
- Cool-down period required after intense scenes
- Photographs of marks/bruises for monitoring healing (if consented)
- 24-hour check-in after intense scenes to assess physical and emotional state
- No play when either party is under the influence of drugs or alcohol
- Additional rule:
Pain Scale & Communication
The parties agree to use a standardized pain scale (1 to 10) during all scenes:
1 to 3: Warm-up intensity (pleasant, arousing sensations)
4 to 6: Moderate intensity (pushing boundaries, intense but manageable)
7 to 9: High intensity (challenging, approaching limits)
10: Hard limit (stop immediately)
The Masochist agrees to communicate their current number when asked.
The Sadist agrees to check in regularly and respect the reported numbers.
Yellow safeword may be used to indicate "currently at an 8 to 9, slow down."
Red safeword indicates immediate stop, regardless of number.
Injury Protocol & Risk Management
Both parties acknowledge that sadomasochistic activities carry inherent risks.
Acceptable marks that may occur:
- Redness and warming of skin
- Light to moderate bruising on agreed areas
- Temporary marks that fade within 1 to 2 weeks
- Rope marks or indentations
Unacceptable injuries requiring immediate stop:
- Breaking of skin (unless specifically negotiated with sterile equipment)
- Deep bruising or hematomas
- Any injury to joints, spine, kidneys, or organs
- Signs of nerve damage (numbness, tingling that doesn't resolve)
- Any injury that requires medical attention
First aid kit contents will include: ice packs, bandages, antibiotic ointment, arnica gel, pain relievers, emergency contact numbers.
Aftercare Requirements
Aftercare is mandatory after all sadomasochistic scenes.
Physical aftercare may include:
- Ice or heat application to impacted areas
- Gentle massage with arnica or healing creams
- Hydration and light snacks
- Comfortable positioning and rest
- Monitoring of marks and bruises
Emotional aftercare may include:
- Verbal affirmation and reassurance
- Physical comfort (cuddling, holding)
- Discussion of the scene highlights
- Grounding and reality reaffirmation
- Check-in about emotional state
Extended aftercare continues for 24 to 48 hours with text check-ins and support as needed.
Aftercare requirements Mandatory
Partner 1's aftercare needs
Partner 2's aftercare needs
Time and commitment
Tick the dynamic you agree on.
- 24/7 dynamic: The power exchange is part of everyday life, not only scenes, within the limits and protocols you agree on.
- Bedroom only: The dynamic applies only in intimate or sexual settings. Outside of that, you relate as equals.
- Scheduled scenes: You plan scenes in advance, with a set time, place and negotiation beforehand.
- Casual / as desired: Scenes happen when you both feel like it, with no fixed schedule. Each scene is still negotiated.
- Long distance: You live apart and maintain the dynamic through messages, calls, video and planned visits.
Mandatory safety protocols Non-negotiable
- Regular communication: partners check in regularly about comfort, boundaries and desires.
- Respect for safe words: safe words are honored immediately, without question.
- Aftercare: appropriate aftercare is provided after every scene.
- Respect for boundaries: all stated limits and boundaries are respected.
- Ongoing consent: consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time.
- No activities under the influence: no scenes while under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
- Emergency procedures: both partners know the emergency contacts and procedures.
Signatures
By signing below, both parties confirm that they have read, understood and agree to everything in this agreement.
Partner 1:
Partner 2:
Important reminders
- This agreement can be changed at any time by mutual agreement.
- Review it regularly, for example every 3 to 6 months.
- Consent can be withdrawn at any time.
- Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
- Always put safety, consent and mutual respect first.